No More Shitty Coping Skills

Finding a Balance Can Be Hard, But You Don’t Have To Do It Alone

Developing new coping skills and processing through life stressors are both effective in helping you identify how you wish to live and making the plan for it. Therapy is a safe place for developing and discuss this plan with a qualified professional trained in effective therapy techniques such as cognitive behavior, dialectical behavior, and motivational interviewing. 

Common Maladaptive Coping Mechanisms with Women

You are stressed out at work and find it hard to shut it all down when you go to sleep. You notice that drinking a few drinks does the trick….. except when you wake up you have a headache, and the stress is still there. Or you find yourself overeating in your car in between meetings to make yourself feel better which works while you are eating but then you feel guilty and shameful for eating so much. The coping strategy gets rid of the trigger or stressor for that moment but will come with adverse side effects and often unforeseen consequences.  

This all becomes very problematic when it impacts your functioning such unable to concentrate at work, no energy to play with your kids, preoccupation with the coping strategy, or it becomes ineffective all together in helping. Below are some common categories of maladaptive coping skills.

Recognition-seeking or Status-seeking: Overcompensates through impressing, high achievement, status, attention-seeking, etc.

Excessive Orderliness, Obsessionality: Maintains strict order, tight self-control, or a high level of predictability through order & planning, excessive adherence to routine or ritual, or extreme caution. Devotes extreme amounts of time to find the best way to accomplish tasks or avoid adverse outcomes.

Compliance, Dependence: Relies on others, gives in, seeks affiliation, passive, dependent, submissive, clinging, avoids conflict, people-pleasing.

Addictive Self-Soothing: Avoids by using addictions involving the body, such as alcohol, drugs, overeating, excessive masturbation, etc.





Psychological Withdrawal: Copes through dissociation, numbness, denial, fantasy, or other internal forms of mental escape

Social withdrawal, Excessive autonomy: Copes through social isolation, disconnection, and removal. May demonstrate an exaggerated focus on independence and self-reliance, rather than involvement with others. Sometimes retreats through private activities such as excessive tv watching, reading, recreational computing, or solitary work.

Compulsive Stimulation-seeking: Seeks excitement or distraction through compulsive shopping, sex, gambling, risk-taking, physical activity, novelty, etc.

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